How tough is it to be a woman? On the one side, there is pressure to be stylish, beautiful and fashionable. On the other, you’re expected to carry, give birth to and bring up kids. And even if you don’t currently have kids, you know what it does to you. Your own mother will probably have told you a few things, often with an accusatory note in their voice.
The good news is that by and large (mostly large), people give you a pass on a lot of that stuff. You’ll gain weight, inevitably. You’ll begin to, shall we say, glow. Sometimes, on the glamour front, you will fall down. But is that a reason to give up trying? And miss out on the clothes and things that make you feel good? Right in the middle of the morning sickness and increased toilet breaks? I don’t think so.
Do: Make The Most Of Accessories
Some of your favorite outfits are going to have to take a back seat, it’s inevitable. You can get away with them, maybe, in the first trimester. But as you start to fill out, anything more figure hugging is going to look … wrong. But you can accessorize. Long necklaces, pendants and lockets still work beautifully. You can even let them accentuate the bump – because there is no point acting like it’s not there.
Don’t: Assume That Stretchy Fabrics Are Your Friend
“Oh, this one has some give in it”, you might tell yourself as you go through the closet for things that will still work and things that won’t. You may add that to the “still in rotation” pile. But don’t think for one second that stretchy fabrics will work just as well when the pounds start to arrive. They won’t. Just going up a size is a much smarter move, and the clothes keep their stylish cut and shape.
Do: Wear Empire Lines
For someone who is not pregnant, clothes that fit tight over the stomach can show you’ve been working out, or that you’re lucky. For someone who is pregnant, they’re uncomfortable and they don’t look good. An Empire line cut – with the waistband below the breasts – will look much better and feel just right. And they were a big deal in the British Regency, so you can pretend you’re in Pride and Prejudice.
Don’t: Try To Modify Your Existing Clothes
Idly, over lunch one day, a friend who has never been pregnant will tell you about a thing she read. There’s this device that allows you to still wear your not-pregnant jeans, and no-one will even know! Oh, they’ll know. Believe me; they will know. Sure, it may hold your jeans closed. But you’ll be in tremendous discomfort, and it won’t last out the pregnancy either.
All you will do is draw attention to the fact you’re wearing clothes that don’t fit. Go up a size or two. No-one will judge you. Pinky promise.
Being pregnant means changes are a-comin’. Some wonderful, some not so much. How you react to those changes is the key here. And the most important lesson is that you don’t need to act like you aren’t carrying another human being inside. Neither do you have to abandon all pretence of style. You’re still you, so embrace it!